Friday, December 9, 2011

What's in a name

"Every newborn is pledge for his aqiqah, sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved ang he is given a name (a good one)." (HR. Abu Daud no. 2838, An Nasai no. 4220, Ibnu Majah nol. 3165, Ahmad 5/12. Syaikh Al Albani said this is shahih)

some people maybe really do not care what name they give to their children...but for me as a a good name is a must and inside the name is an expectation what my kids gonna be...

anyway how could you call them with such a bad word name... :)

Rakha Pangestu Putra

Rakha : good life

Pangestu : blessing

Putra : boy

Our son who is full blessing from his parents in order later to get a comfortable better life

Dimas Anggara Falah

Dimas : dearest/beloved (Javanese), little brother

Anggara : fragrances (Sanskrit), diligent

Falah : victory (Arabic)

Our beloved son who is very diligent for making a life and later will spread his fragrances (good aura) for all human kind especially his parent toward his victory


Wahyu Aditya Tama

Wahyu : grace, God entrusted

Aditya : sun (Sanskrit), smart and wise (Javanese)

Tama : the first

Our first son that God entrusts to us who would be a smart wise man and will brighten/help other people

Thursday, December 8, 2011

What a workalholic people

farmers plant padi on heavy rain

 "Indeed among those sins are sins that can not be eliminated by a prayer, almsgiving and pilgrim. But it can be erased by a difficulties and fatigue in their jobs." [HR. Ibn Babawaih and Thabrani]

It was heavy rain today and I just got back from dropping my kids to the school when I looked this view...
The farmer who are working really hard to provide the rice for us...
the rice that sometimes we left in our plate even only a grain...

They ignored the heavy drops of water pouring their back, they have to work in order to live their life...
They are truly moslem who apply the quran and hadith. They know that Islam hates lazy people who do not want to work and just rely on generosity of other people but in contrast working hard to find sustenance that God's blessing will invite grace and love of Allah.

May Allah bless you...

Sunday, December 4, 2011

The right time to ask your kids pray

"O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones..." (At Tahrim - Prohibition 66: 6)

We push our kids to strive for excellence in academics. A lot of us even send our kids to the supporting courses as early as possible such as piano, math, English ... but we forgot one thing ... taught as early as possible PRAYING...

Education is indeed very important, but the significance of religious education for a balanced personality must not be overlooked. The world is producing a generation that knows a lot, but is greatly deficient in moral and spiritual values. The Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) was once talking to his companions about the importance of religious education. He told them he was far from the parents of the last times. They asked him the reason and he explained that those parents would give a lot of importance to secular education, but neglect the religious education. May the Almighty protect us from being amongst them.

In Islamic way, children must be nurtured by nature with a hope that later they could be righteous Muslims since early childhood in order to make it a habit in his life ...

When a child reach age 7 years old, his parents were told by the Prophet (pbuh) ordered his children to pray. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Command your kids to pray when he was up to seven years. And if it was up to ten years then beat him ".

it is ok kids to starts your earlier praying by looking around...but not when you grow.. :)

In another hadith the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Command all your children pray where they are seven years old and beat them when they were ten years old and be separate bed". (Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Daud).

Al-'Alqami in the book Tuhfatul Ahwadzi in syariah (the rule) Al Jami'ush Al-Sagheer said, "Let them teach things needful about the prayers especially about the terms and harmonious of prayer. And ordered them to pray after learning."
He said also that "it is simply instructed to hit that already ten years old, at that time they have been able to endure blows in general. And what hit it with a blow meant no harm and who should avoid the face in the hitting."

When should we teach our children pray?

The children must be taught the ways of prayer before ordered to do it so...the earlier the better. So they fell like praying as part of their routines..

Ibn Abid Dunya said, "It has told to us Ali ibn Al-Ja'd had explained to us from Abu Mu'awiyah Al-Hajjaj from Nafi' from Ibn 'Umar that he said, "He used to teach children to pray when the child knows right from the left."

Jundub ibn Abi Tsabit said, "They used to teach children prayers when they counted 20."

Surely not ONLY orders you gotta do but a MODEL from their own parents...

Saturday, December 3, 2011

The power of hug

courtesy of Google

Every school day I sat on the school bench waiting for my sons dismiss from the class...
I like to be there earlier so that the kids will see me everytime they're out from the class...
I also have a chance to opening my hand wide so I can capture my little son running and flying to me...

But last Friday something are not usual happened..

My little one was sitting on my lap and I was kissing, cuddling and hugging him as if he was still my baby...
Suddenly his Korean friend came toward us and open up my hand and put it in my lap..he sat on my lap..well,actually on my son lap as my son sat directly on my lap..
then he put it back my hand so that now embraced two boys...he was really enjoying being embraced..his face looks so happy, smiling til I can only see one little line in his eyes... :)

Somehow I fell that he never has this situation before.....being loving, hugging, cuddling as if he is still a baby..
He misses Mom's HUG...the most powerful energy in the universe..

note :
in the science it proves that hugging will increase the hormone oxytocin (a hormone for cardiovascular health) and subtracting the hormone cortisol (a hormone that causes stress and increases blood pressure).


Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Money can not buy

Abu Hurairah Radi'yallahhu 'anhu said: The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "talk nicely to a woman, because she is from a crooked rib, so if you're forced to straighten it by force it must be broken, and if you let certainly like that it will remain crooked, so advised her nicely. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)

To be a caring, loving, and romantic husband you do not need to be such a wealthy man...
It is inside your heart...
Sometimes money can not buy what you called real love....
How can you say that you LOVE someone if your behavior is unpleasant to her..
It needs an action to prove that you are really care of someone... even only a kiss before you left her to work...

courtesy of Google

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Don't be easy to believe...(a review of First World Genting room)

When my kids asked me to go for holiday in Genting...I searched to the internet what is the nearest comfortable hotel for the family since I am going to traveling with my 3 little boys and my Mom...

There are plenty of it...but somehow I choose the First World Hotel Genting...
For the easy way I am using reason of using it, I can read at the comments from other guest...especially for the complaints.. :)

We book Superior Double or Twin room because they have interconnecting door...
Some people were complaining about the long line for check-in, the room that are not clean, so packed and no more space left ...and the last of course about the breakfast...
This hotel has around 4500 just imagine how the breakfast will be...just like high school canteen... :)

I asked the kids to pray for the ease and best for us...and be ready with the hard situation later we are going to face...
but thanks God....we get the ease...
check-in just 15 minutes ... the room is also clean and large because we get the rooms in the tower 2, which is newer than the tower 1
even during the hustle bustle...
thanks God .... God granted the kids prayer .... 
so don't just get the bad prejudice by reading or hearing only from one source
sometimes that is not really right...

here some pictures of the room in the First World Hotel Genting...

the superior double bed

Rakha were dancing to be in the TV show... :)
the other room with 2 twin beds that connecting with the master room...
the picture was taken from the connecting door..

from the other side

you can see from the window how dense the haze at the rainy season

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

The true L O V E

Men's LOVE is like a mountain. It is large, constant and (unfortunately) vulnerable. When it will produce the volcanic mudflow or hot ash which can destroy anything surrounding it.

Women's LOVE is like a nail. It is just small like finger nail but keep growing silently and slowly. If you cut it, it will keeps growing and growing and growing.

In the real life we see so many domestic bullying or harrasment happened to the wife...but those strong women be able to handling it...either being cheated of her husband affair, being hurt either with the sarcastic words or physical...

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How bad her husband or her kids hurting her...she still can forgive... 
In her smile she is hiding her pain...
In her laugh she is hiding her sadness...

God created woman with a heart so tender, which could easily forgive (even though she will not forget the pain) no matter how big she faced unappropriate behaviours of the people she loved.
Women have been prepared since they were youth. When she had to feel the pain of menstruation, and so was pregnancy when she had to carry the burden that is not light for 9 months, then giving birth and breastfeeding ....

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All of it can only be done by somebody whom God have been prepared to deal with it ...

So if someone says that women are weak creatures ..... it's wrong ...
How could you say "weak" if she could give such a FORGIVENESS that men (who's labeled as STRONG) won't be able to do it...

Sunday, November 20, 2011

The right position in congregational prayer

When I arrive in the mosque for early morning praying (Subuh praying) there is a woman that always take a spot on the far right of the Imam...
It does not matter she came first or later she always took that spot...
I am such fell awkward what should I do then...should I keep stand lining behind the Imam as sunnah but there is a gap between me and her...
or should I stand close to her just because she doesn't want to straighten or tighten the line...

In Islam there is a rule in praying for the position of the prayer followers...
Here I have a picture to make it easy to understand what the right position in congregation praying are...

courtesy of Google

Hope she is reading this note and aware of her ignorance....insya Allah...

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Precious time with Dad

I find some pictures that were taken long time when kiddoz are still little...
the time they spend with their Dad during his busy endless works...
hope it will mean something to them and it will be the most precious time for them...

@ Bali

@ Bandung
@ Pondok Indah home

@ Bandungan hotel

Wednesday, November 9, 2011


"Do men think that they will be left alone on saying,"We believe," and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false" 
(Al Ankabut - The Spider : 2-3)

courtesy of Google

my dear does not always run smoothly ....

gravel needs to be careful
thorny bushes need to be alert
intersections need to wisely choose
need directions so that there is hope to the future
problems to know the strength
takes sacrifice to be willing to work hard
tears need to be humble
need a reproach to appreciate
need a laugh in order to give thanks
need to know the love smile

needs sincerity and patience to be able to accept and through the LIFE

*to someone that I care about*

(hidup tidak selamanya berjalan mulus ….

butuh batu kerikil agar berhati-hati
butuh semak berduri agar waspada
butuh persimpangan agar bijak memilih
butuh petunjuk jalan agar ada harapan menuju masa depan
butuh masalah agar tahu kekuatan
butuh pengorbanan agar mau bekerja keras
butuh airmata agar selalu rendah hati
butuh celaan agar bisa menghargai
butuh tertawa agar bisa mengucap syukur
butuh senyum agar tahu cinta kasih
butuh keikhlasan dan kesabaran untuk bisa menerima dan menjalani semua itu)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011


"When my heart became constricted and my paths became narrow, I took my hope in YOUR pardon and forgiveness, as an opening and escape. My sins seemed very great to me, but when I compared them to YOUR forgiveness My Lord, I found YOUR forgiveness to be greater."  (Imam Ash-Shafi'ee)

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Thursday, November 3, 2011

The authenticity of Quran

"We have, without doubt, sent down the Message; and We will assuredly guard it (from corruption)." (Al Hijr-9)

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One of the posting in my friend Facebook made me very a moslem I feel my knowledge just about pre school level...may Allah forgive me..
I was then asking, reading and searching thru all the source I could the story of it.

She had discussion with her boss and her boss asked her, " Who scribed the Quran? How could you be so assure that nobody edited?"

The ayah's written on the top is the answer of it. 'We' in the ayah means Allah and HIS angel.
This ayah could encourage for the unbelievers to believe Al Quran and also to cut their hope for holding their misguided belief. This means that sooner or later whoever has incompatible with Quran will be defeated by the contents of it.

The hafiz (the people who memorized the Quran) will also involve in the genuineness of Quran.
Once there is somebody try to add one word in the Quran but then it is revealed...
because Allah never break HIS promises...subhanallah..HE is the one who are going to protect Al Quran from it's authenticity..

source :
- Tafsir Al Mishbah Vol.6
- Al Quran
- thank to my friend Abdan Lillahil Ahad 

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Being tough

courtesy of Google

Like driving under the storm sometimes we just stop and wait until the storm has gone...
but the tough people will go thru it because they believe that the storm will end somewhere in front of it...

Saturday, October 15, 2011

The key of asceticism (Zuhud)

“Zuhud” is an Arabic word and a vital concept in Islam. The English meaning is asceticism which means renouncing worldly pleasures in order to gain nearness to Allah.

According to the term, ascetic was turned away and leave something you like that are material or worldly luxury of expecting and wanting something better shape and is a spiritual/happiness hereafter.

courtesy of wordpress

The Key of Asceticism (Zuhud)
(by Hasan Al-Bashri)

I know, my fortune will not be taken by someone else
Hence, my heart is calmed down

I know, my good deeds won't be done by someone else
Hence, I make my self busy doing it

I know Allah always see me
Hence, I ashamed if Allah see me doing wickedness

I know death is awaiting for me
Hence, I prepare bunch of rewards to meet my Lord

[Aku tahu , rizkiku tak mungkin diambil orang lain
Karenanya, hatiku tenang

Aku tahu,amal-amalku tak mungkin dilakukan orang lain
Maka aku sibukkan diriku untuk beramal

Aku tahu, Allah selalu melihatku
Karenanya, aku malu bila Allah mendapatiku melakukan maksiat

Aku tahu, kematian menantiku
Maka aku persiapkan bekal untuk berjumpa dengan Rabbku]

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Message on the truck

On the way to pick up my son I read this message...
It said (literally) "being home we fight, not being home we miss"
(mulih padu ora mulih rindu)

yeah it is sometimes happened with our life...

we miss our friends and family if we are apart...but if we are closed sometimes we fight....aren't we....  :)

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Comic character kids

Here are some pictures from the Book Week event...

Aditya the Lucky Luke

Dimas the Ben10

Rakha the Peter Pan

Axelle the Ireland Smurf

LizLong the Australian Little Red Riding Hood

Sung Hi the Korean TinkerBell

Naomi the French Girl Asterix and David the French Skinny Obelix

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Being creative :)

This week my sons school has an Annual Book Week...
They told me that at the end of the week they should dress like the character in the book they read...
hhmmmmmm....kind of interesting..

We went to the book store and let my sons picked the book they like...
Adit got the Lucky Luke
Dimas wants to be Ben10
Rakha the skinny boy would like to dress as Peter Pan

Mommy will have to use her imagination to make the costume.... :)

Lucky Luke costume for Aditya
I am using a yellow long sleeves and black t-shirt...
cut here..cut there..sewing here..sewing there...

before (I cut the neck because it's to tight...for the black one I cut the hand so it becomes U-can-see shirt that look like a vest)

after the modification
the real Lucky Luke...isn't it the same ;)

Ben10 costume for Dimas
This one is not to bad...just find a green long pants and white polo shirt...add some black material to the edge of hand, collar and the middle of polo shirt...
Buy a Chinese fake Ben10 watch...print a Ben10 sign and laminate, put a safety pin to stay in the pocket.


the real Ben10 costume

Peter Pan for Rakha
The hard one is finding the small dark green legging which gonna fit with my little one cause he is so skinny :)
For the top, just use a light green t-shirt and cut the bottom part so it wedges...use the cut material and put it in the hand...
Get the construction cartoon to make an easy good looking hat, dagger and belt

after using the imagination :)

Hopefully they will enjoy and proud to use Mommy handmade custome...
Have fun boys....I LOVE YOU....

Monday, October 3, 2011

Health Tips

With the terrorism issues nowadays the security in the airport sometimes is so unpleasant...
Have you ever been in this situation???
I've been...and it was so offensive..but then this cartoon give me a nice positive thinking :))

courtesy of Google

Saturday, October 1, 2011

This is a real LIFE...


This morning I accompanied my Mom for shopping in traditional market...
subhanallah...I felt so touching, looked around the many old women have to struggling selling something that sometimes it is not worth it to buy...

Where are all the young people???
They prefer to work in the office, or building construction...or as sales promotion girl..
This is what you called real life....

Ughh..I wish I had plenty money like Bill Gates so I would give all of them and let them enjoying the rest of their life...

courtesy of blogger
(unfortunate I don't have a chance to take their picture with my own camera)

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Never give up...

It has been a long time to hold my appetite for one of my favorite cake in my new place Yogyakarta...
I used to have the best one in my previous city Jakarta which is located in traditional market in tasted so yummy til you can't stop before it finishes... :)

I surf thru the internet attempt to find out which store has the best layer cake (lapis legit) in Yogyakarta..
then I went to the store promoted in internet....from one store to another...from the cheap to the expensive one....but still no luck...

Finally this morning I found it in MIROTA bakery on FM. Noto Street No. 7 Kotabaru Yogyakarta...alhamdulillah...the best layer cake in Yogyakarta so far... :)

not as spicy as the one in Jatinegara where you can taste very strong spices aroma in it...however it is as juicy as it...
I think they do not put the spices too much incase some people prefer the light one...
but at least I can spoiled my appetite...after hold my patient...

a reminder for me...never give up as long as you have a will then you will find a way...

Another bakery that also has good layer cake (lapis legit) is Parsley Bakery.

In this bakery you have to order in advance...they don't have it in the display til you order it...

Monday, September 12, 2011

What to do when alone and having heart attack

Due to the changes in our life styles, heart attack could be found among people in all age groups. It usually happens when you are alone.

After a long hard day in the office, you are about going home and driving by yourself alone. With the traffic that is so pack it even makes you're really exhausted and frustrated. You feel stressed and upset...

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Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to radiate out into your arm and up into your jaw.
Unfortunately you don't know if you will be able to get to the nearest hospital.

How to survive a heart attack when you are alone????

Many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begin to feel faint, has only about 10seconds left before losing conscious.

1. start coughing repeatedly and very vigorously.
2. a deep breath taking should be taken before each cough.
3. the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest.
4. a breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.

Deep breath get oxygen into lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart keep the blood circulating.
All the squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to the nearest hospital.

Now, it is the time to change your life styles to be as HEALTHY as possible...
LOVE your heart before it's been attacked...
Eat healthy food and do exercise.... (the last one is the most difficult for me ^_^ )

courtesy of Google

*information from Journal of General Hospital Rochester*

Sunday, September 11, 2011

A Loving Caring Dad...

This morning I got something unusual from my Facebook...a touching note that makes my tears drop.
A story about nurturing our kids. How LOVE plays role in our life.

Here are the story   *free translation from the article by Neno Warisman*
When my first son was born, he has a dark skin like his father. I told to my husband, "Subhanallah (God Heaven), he is just looked like you." My husband replied, "Is that really what you one right. If the boy you wanna be like me." I nodded and he went back to his work as usual.

I named my son Ahmad following the Prophet (peace be upon him) calls. Year after year he grows up as a smart boy like his Dad. We are so proud of him.

We celebrated his 5th birthday by inviting our big family to our home. But somehow Ahmad felt so bored and frustrated with his party. He just wanted to play with his Dad who was so busy walking around talking to all the guest. Suddenly he climbed his Dad's back and it made his Dad was so angry. I did not know why my husband acted like that. Perhaps he thought that Ahmad is not a little boy anymore.

Then Ahmad felt down from his Dad's back because his Dad didn't want to hang around with him. It made his face red, burst into tears. On his 5th birthday he was hurt and humiliated. His Dad done something unpleasant to him. Since that day he became so quiet boy, joyless and like to stay in his room alone. He changed into an anger boy.

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I attempted to discuss this with my husband but he has no interest. He was drowning with his paper, working with his due thesis. He said that he did not want to get involved with a SMALL problem. Astagfirullah (may Allah forgive him).

Time went by, Ahmad has graduated from his bachelor degree. He married and gave me a grandson. When his wife gave a birth his first son, she told him,"Honey, he is look like you. He has a dark skin." Ahmad was offended and with no attention said," Is that as you want, if boy you wanna be like me. It is not my fault but your wish."
I was there listening the conversation. It shocked me, felt like dejavu for me. I felt something burn in my heart.

Oneday we visited Ahmad's home. Ahmad junior was in his hand. Suddenly Ahmad was so upset because the little innocent baby boy was leak on his hand. He shouted to his wife,"Why don't you put a diapers to him." Then he handed over his baby to his wife roughly and went rushed to the bathroom to clean up his clothes.

My husband kept reading his newspaper not bothering et all with the atmosphere. I felt something want to explode from my chest. The hard pain I buried for years melt down. I was cried out loud. I grabbed the newspaper my husband read and told him,"Do you remember what's happening on Ahmad's 5th birthday. You slammed Ahmad to the floor just because you don't want to be bothered. I ask you to fix it but keep saying you are busy. Do you listen what Ahmad just said? Do you? He doesn't like his baby leak on him. He feel strange to his own son."

O Allah, bestow blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

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Oh my prophet (peace be upon him), I want my son following you, behave like you, admiring you.
You carried your grandsons on your back, you chased them and played with them, you even looked at a kid when his bird pet was died. You are the one who also told a mother who took her sons very rough from your lap just because the baby leak at you, "This dirt can be wiped out, but can you replace the soft nerves that broke in his head?"
You are a noble man that has a soft heart...

I staring at my husband who is glued. I looked at my son that stood still like a hard rock. I looked at them, tears dropped from my eyes. I can not be desperate from God mercy.

Then I hold my husband rigid hand, I walked him close to Ahmad and put his hand on Ahmad's hair. Let him stroking his son's hair. Ahmad was so trembling, shaking, he never felt this soft lovely touch from his Dad for a long time....

I said to both of them, "Please do this for the one who can be passed away anytime. I can't give anything except LOVE. Please give your LOVE for every baby boy who are going to born and will give you your next generation. Do it for a big changes in our family and the rest of the world. There won't be any PEACE in this world if you never teach your son LOVE, affection, intimacy speech, caring. Not only a lesson for being valiant but has no HEART...

There was a tears in the eyes of those two sturdy men. Not easy to to change something that being stuck for years...but there is no word for being LATE..and I believe God will help you to solve your problems.

Now those two men start to learn for being a good grandpa and father. Carrying the baby, changing the diapers and even pretending to masterpiece his future...thanks God you always be there when I need you...

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Now their laugh fill my heart with happiness. I entrust my three men I love to YOU, someday when I meet you my prophet (peace be upon him) I just want to say, "I try as hard as I could to ask my son to be like you."